The Hidden Grief of Midlife — Empty Nests, Lost Identities & Letting Go (with Kathy Mela)

It's not just about death. It's about everything else you've quietly let go of.

If you've ever felt like something is sitting heavy on you and you can't quite name why, this episode might help you find the words for it.

Most of us think of grief as something that only shows up after a death. But what if the anger you can't quite explain, the fog you've been walking around in, the feeling of being stuck — what if that's grief too?

My guest this week, Kathy Mela, spent 45 years in the NICU before becoming known as The Grief Navigator. After decades in one of the most emotionally intense corners of healthcare, and after walking through her own losses — including the death of a close friend that led her to start her coaching business, TEAL — Kathy has spent the last several years helping people recognize grief in places they never thought to look for it.

We talk about the hidden grief we carry in midlife and beyond like the grief of an empty nest, the identity loss that comes with a career change, the strange emptiness of letting go of belongings tied to memory, and why some of our most familiar feelings — overwhelm, resentment, that low-grade fog — might actually be grief wearing a different name.

A few things we get into:

• The difference between sorrow and grief, and why that distinction actually matters for how you move forward.
• Why self-compassion, not self-judgment, is the real starting point for healing.
• Kathy says naming what you're feeling is the beginning of moving through it.

Connect with Kathy Mela:
Website: https://kathymela.com/
Free resource: Kathy's Live Full Out Guide is available at the bottom of her home page.

Prefer to watch? You can catch this full conversation with Kathy on YouTube: 

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